I'm old enough to remember when there weren't as many rapists

Concept creep means always talking past each other

OkCupid’s new landing page

I was alone, newly separated from someone I'd thought I'd be with forever, in a still-foreign-to-me country, with language skills limited to shopping transactions and polite neighbour interactions. There was a global pandemic barrelling down the hill and I had no idea whether my work as a knowledge economy contractor would continue. Almost everyone I love was on the other side of a closed border.

Long story short, 2020 turned out to be the best year of my life, but that's a story for another time.

(For those who can't wait, it all came out in the wash.)

A man has needs and towards the end of that year I joined a series of dating sites. It wasn't the first time, so I thought I knew what to expect. But something had changed.