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Mary Morgan's avatar

I think we are on the same page. Our interest in mindfulness helps I'm sure. A psychotherapist colleague from years ago would have clients who would say they just wanted to be happy. His response would be to ask them why they thought they should be happy. It stumped them! Happiness is a changeable thing as you rightly say. I think that some people are more able to experience happiness but it is often found in simple things. A kind deed, a shoulder to cry on helping others problem solve, an enjoyable conversation I'm happier that I used to be because I simplified life. I also have a tendency to reminisce about the past with happy memories/fantasies. With the world in such turmoil, we all need to find moments that take us away from the major stresses in the World today

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Doctor Hammer's avatar

Very interesting, thanks for sharing your thought process here.

It is especially interesting to me because I have a really hard time with what you describe, enjoying just being. I enjoy doing, interacting with the world, and find I can lose myself that way much more effectively. I do enjoy a bit of a sit, especially in the quiet evening when I can watch animals and the like, but I can't do it long without getting a little twitchy.

Even when doing something, if it is something that I have done enough that there is nothing to overcome I can't really enjoy it. It is fun while it is slightly difficult, and importantly those difficulties must be solvable via effort, but once it is routine it just doesn't do it for me.

Sorry to hear about your job loss. This have been pretty rough all over, some industries a lot more than others, and I hope things straighten out for you soon.

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