I am a social media virgin. Never used Twitter, Facebook or other sites but we'll maybe it's time to try. Mike you got me thinking. I'm glad you have tried mindfulness. It's not easy but it brings you into the moment and whilst you may have intrusive thoughts you let them pass by without hanging onto them unlike a fish caught on a finishing line. Allowing you to escape from life's stresses and strains for a time. Also we are biopschosocial beings who try to make sense of all that is around us. We make value judgements about people in particular, without truly knowing them. I've always thought when we meet others or read what they say we make a judgement. It's like looking at a triangle without the vertices, our mind will fill in the gaps so we can make sense of it rather than seeing 3 straight lines. We do this in relation to others we fill in the gaps with our own fantasies. We should take responsibility for this. Naturally we gravitate towards those we feel we share similarities with but even those we don't agree with can teach us something.
I like your triangle analogy. As for trying social media...well, I'll be writing a lot more about it here. And not in a 'hey, you should try these great communities' kind of way.
On the subject of mindfulness, the self-awareness that it surfaces is the single most useful thing I've found for making sense of my often useless & confused mind and metering its reflexively positive or negative responses to things. This might not instantly sound like a massive win, but it's the difference between being the classic fish on a hook you reference and actually having at least a bit of agency.
I think yo have made significant progress with mindfulness, and self awareness. As I trained in what I consider to be a purest form of mindfulness, rather than cognitive based mindfulness I believe that you are always a student of the subject and not an expert and you can always keep learning from it. I had meant to comment on your thoughts on identity (but being a virgin I was rather nervous). However I agree with you that actions say more about a person than their espoused beliefs. If you want to go into identity further you could look at Johari's window. It may bring a lot of self doubt with it as in its simplest form it proposes that identity has the components of how we view our self and how others view us, thus forming our identity. For some it can be a boost to self confidence and self esteem as sometimes others can see us in a better light than our own self view.
I am a social media virgin. Never used Twitter, Facebook or other sites but we'll maybe it's time to try. Mike you got me thinking. I'm glad you have tried mindfulness. It's not easy but it brings you into the moment and whilst you may have intrusive thoughts you let them pass by without hanging onto them unlike a fish caught on a finishing line. Allowing you to escape from life's stresses and strains for a time. Also we are biopschosocial beings who try to make sense of all that is around us. We make value judgements about people in particular, without truly knowing them. I've always thought when we meet others or read what they say we make a judgement. It's like looking at a triangle without the vertices, our mind will fill in the gaps so we can make sense of it rather than seeing 3 straight lines. We do this in relation to others we fill in the gaps with our own fantasies. We should take responsibility for this. Naturally we gravitate towards those we feel we share similarities with but even those we don't agree with can teach us something.
I like your triangle analogy. As for trying social media...well, I'll be writing a lot more about it here. And not in a 'hey, you should try these great communities' kind of way.
On the subject of mindfulness, the self-awareness that it surfaces is the single most useful thing I've found for making sense of my often useless & confused mind and metering its reflexively positive or negative responses to things. This might not instantly sound like a massive win, but it's the difference between being the classic fish on a hook you reference and actually having at least a bit of agency.
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I think yo have made significant progress with mindfulness, and self awareness. As I trained in what I consider to be a purest form of mindfulness, rather than cognitive based mindfulness I believe that you are always a student of the subject and not an expert and you can always keep learning from it. I had meant to comment on your thoughts on identity (but being a virgin I was rather nervous). However I agree with you that actions say more about a person than their espoused beliefs. If you want to go into identity further you could look at Johari's window. It may bring a lot of self doubt with it as in its simplest form it proposes that identity has the components of how we view our self and how others view us, thus forming our identity. For some it can be a boost to self confidence and self esteem as sometimes others can see us in a better light than our own self view.